Excuses are just Lies

On Monday morning when he wakes up he knows he has to go to work this week. As a matter of fact his whole week down to his haircut appointment and when he'll wash his car is already planned. See a man is a structured human being who knows what he wants and he is never afraid of commitment because he is committed to his job, going to see his mom, spending time with his children, buying a home, and he is committed to the time he'll spend with the guys. However, when it comes to you it seems like he can't commit to being consistent. Most women desire time but it seems he falls for the type of women that want his money.  Honestly, some men find it easier to buy things for a woman to make her happy rather than make time to spend quality time with her.  It's effortless and easy. I can tell you right now when he begin to say things like "I am so sorry I was very busy today" or I'm sorry I didn't have time to call you". Sadly, ladies these are lies that he's made you believe are his excuses. We live in a society where cell phone are like our heartbeat. There are to many social media apps that allow us to be plugged into society. If he can post on social media, view everyone's post, like and comment on social media then he definitely has time for you. Even if he doesn't have social media he can call you or text you at anytime he desire but he has to desire to keep you. So he has no excuses but a punch bowl full of lies that you've believed and allowed him to get away with. A man will not make excuses when he values what is in front of him. You aren't optional you are apart of his life, his plan,and his day. He makes sure he tells you good morning. He will find moments to text or call you during the day just either to ask you "wyd" or call you to say hi. He won't end his day until he knows how your day went and saying good night. Ladies, the problem is you allow men to make it with these lies watered down by excuses. I promise you ladies if you raise awareness to his excuses he'll either get it together or realize you can't be easily fooled.  

Her Perception killed the Relationship

He thought he had a perfect match. She was beautiful educated and well mannered. So he decided to give his all. He looked over her need to always remain fly in the latest outfits but the more he explored her mind he realized that she was more concerned about others perception of her life and how their life looked in pictures, on camera, and in front of the public. See she wanted to look the part and never desired to actually be the part. She was turned on by what others had to say like the "you guys look wonderful, and you make a good looking couple" that she was no longer in tuned to his desires to become intimate through communication. The nights he'd hold her turned into shopping for shoes and outfits for up coming events on the Internet. He could no longer walk out the house comfortable he became a reflection of her as if he was her trophy. He worked over time to make sure she had nice things and drove the best. One day he stopped and asked her "what about their relationship makes her smile." She responded "they way people react when we walk in the room." Everyone desires to be us because we look so good together." His response was "looks can be deceiving." She never caught on she asked him his opinion of an outfit she seen on Instagram for a Christmas dinner they were going to attend. That night as she sleep he woke up and wrote her a letter and this is what it said. 

" I love the thought of you. The thought that we would be. Just you and me. The thought that we could have a family and be happy with the simple things of life. But your perception of love and your want for everyone to love what they see when they look at us isn't what I imagined you'd be like. I can't live up to your perception of love. I'm sorry but your perception has killed this relationship."