Because I know better.. I do better...I LOVE

I felt the need to express love in its simplest form.. From the bible.. I have learned that we are nothing if we don't have love.. We will get any where if we are not humble!

1 Corinthians 13

 ¹ If I speak in the tongues^[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. ² If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. ³ If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,^[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

 ⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 ⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part, ¹⁰ but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. ¹¹ When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. ¹²For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 ¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

An interesting status from facebook

I am a woman of many thoughts and words. I try to think of things and subjects in all different types of view. Just to make people think and debt about the Matters of the Heart.. Seeing that it is so close to Valentines day I put a status post up that went as following: Well mistress its almost that time!! So what do yal settle for before or after valentines day!! Cause FYI: HE WILL BE WITH HIS WIFE ON THE 14th!! But "Singles Awareness Day" is on the 15th. <---- Celebrate the day cause if he ain't yours, your still single(Oops-you didn't know that) aww!! I'm Rachel G and I approve this message!! #GoodDay
Now the response and comments were great. Originally the subject was on the defense for the married woman. But as time went one it went to the wife needing to leave the husband. Now as a divorced woman I can say finding out that the man you marry has cheated and had an affair on you is a hard blow. Rather you chose to stay pr not is on you. Personally I left but everyone views and what women tolerate in a marriage is on them. Not wanting to get off subject so back on track. A woman should have the respect for herself, her family, her present, as well as her future to have a long term affair or any type of affair with a married man. Since my divorce I have encountered and received phone calls, emails, house visits from male and females trying to save their marriage.  First of all ladies her is a FYI for you. Then man is not going to leave his home. It is never in his attentions to lose his family. In hoping he will get things on track before his wife gets fed up and leaves. The first thing a woman does is try to figure out if she is doing something wrong and how it can be fixed. Now you have a family and the other woman. I know different situations on affairs. From the hotel/motel meeting, to the parking the car in the garage cheating, to the switch car cheating.. But what takes the cake for me is the house key cheating.. After having a affair with the same person attachment comes along. I never had to wonder how the other woman felt on holidays I know from an exclusive conversation from a woman that has been having an affair with the same man for over 20 years. She said that she wanted more but learn to settle for what should get. He didn't love his wife and that he is only there until the kids grew up..Well I asked her about holidays and the joy of en-laws. She said the woman busted them years ago, had the kids so the kids knew of her. As fas as holidays they do the day before the holiday or after. He comes cooks for her family and friends. He even has a house key..Do you see something wrong with this picture.. Well 20yrs later he has not divorced his wife and she is still awaiting the moment which will be never. Honestly I think everyone goes through periods in their life what ever that period may be it should used as a constant reminder of what to do and what not to do. What to say and what not to say. Some opinions, statement, and views are better left alone if you have been on the other side of the bridge unless it is to help someone else. Hindrance is never an issue. You overcome by the blood of your testimony. But I hope this makes women and men think about the value of themselves and the courage to want better for your life..Thats all! 

This Is Love

People often say that love is only conquered when you are near the one you love! Is this true? I have never known for love to have a limit or distance.. It is that moment love finds you.. The time in exchanging number.. The first call.. The first plan visit.. While in route to love you think about everything. What you were doing the moment before you met. The second you walked away knowing that it may be months before you can lay eyes on each other again. Then knowing all you have conversation. They say conversation rules the nation. Not true in my opinion. There is something you have to pick up when you are in a conversation to hit you and that this special. Its the anxious moment of laying eyes on the voice you have spoken to on the phone. Off the plane.. getting the bags from claim and ladies if you are like me you need a bath room check. You are nervous because you have not seen his person but you know their conversation has you wanting to know more about them. You see them..and so many thoughts swim through you head. Finally the first lunch or dinner and you see the time you've spent on the phone was worth every minute. Time goes by and it is the goodbye that you both regret. All you want to know is when is the next time you will see each other. This is when some say distance love fails.. You love the phone conversations but in your heart you long for more. To be near him or her. The bond is great. So to go against what others may say, love can be conquered where ever you are. Its all about knowing that no matter what you have all you need and you know that what you have is love. Putting the time of gathering in the man above hand and knowing that what you have is better than love that is near. Time, mountains, distance, water, or air can't stand a chance because you know this is love!!-Rachel G.

Single By Choice

Seeing that I have been faced with this conversation a lot lately. Although my personal life is not open for decision. I will say that I am not married. The question is normally asked how do I feel being alone or why am I always seen alone. A lot men think because a woman is alone because she can't find or seem to keep a man. I will speak for all women who think like myself, that is not true. When a good woman knows her worth and have been through things she doesn't jump into the arms of the next man that comes along. We don't care what company you own, where you live, who you know, or what you drive. What matters is what type of man are you. Are you a friend, and buddy, a lover, loyal..(need I go on..) Most women like this have been in love and hurt by love so they learn to pay closer attention to the men they come in contact with. Most of the time they hold up a wall which with time can come down but quickly ca come back. So this brings the question..Why do men question women like myself. The why are you single? Well women if I may I can answer for all of us. We are single because we first of all don't go looking for men. Secondly we are praying women that wait on God. I believe he can send a man to me way better than I can count on myself to pick one. A personal note: If a woman is doing great by herself then if a man is allowed in her life it is because not only are men doing something successful for themselves but because they're a great communicator. Most women that hold down their own want men that listen and communicate with them.. Buying nice things are great. But remember you should want a woman that can buy themselves what you buy them. So men if you want to expand the women you date to the women that have things going for themselves I hope you aren't selfish and like to communicate because it nothing after a long day to have someone to communicate with. Until then some women are single by choice! -Rachel G.

BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!

Woke up with a huge burst of confidence this morning and I want to give some away! Take a quick second to reflect on yesterday!! tick tick tick!! lol OK!! So how was your yesterday? Did you have a great and successful day? Did you accomplish everything you set out to do? Stop take look at last week. Did you make short term goals for last week? Did you accomplish them like you set out to? If you answer was No.. What happen??? A lot of time we set out to do things but we put no verbal action to them..instead we put verbal thought! Verbal thought is like saying " Today I am going to enroll back in college" But you said it but never set out to actually do this. Verbal action is putting movement to you verbal thought! Getting up and actually enrolling back into college. Everyday I wake up and reflect on my day before and see and compare my verbal thoughts to my verbal action. Now if your days have been successful and you have set out and accomplished every task you have said you were. THAT IS GREAT!!! So are you going to stop? See all it takes is actually accomplishing a task and every time you accomplish a task I believe that we gain a new level of confidence. Before you know it instead of verballing thinking into your day we began to just do things because we say so! I have tried this and what has happened for me is that I no longer give things verbal thought! I get up and give it verbal action. Its like waking up and brushing your teeth. Its apart of our daily routine. However, you can not gain the "BECAUSE I SAID SO" mentality until you actually do so.. Faith without works is dead!!! Bless your life-Rachel G.

Rachel G. Matters of the Heart: Sometimes its needed

Rachel G. Matters of the Heart: Sometimes its needed: "Falling in love some say comes with time while others seem to think it is being at the right place at the right time. However you can still ..."

Sometimes its needed

Falling in love some say comes with time while others seem to think it is being at the right place at the right time. However you can still fall in love after all the communication and learning that your lives are the perfect scene for a happy ever after movie. Between every movies is always the point of testing of the relationship. Its when we develop a scenes of comfort and we stop doing somethings. As men and women I am starting to wonder if we are aware of the fact that someone is trying to be apart of the story to crash the happy ending. They always start with the things that the other person use to do but with time has slipped away. Sometimes explaining doesn't get the point across that sometimes its needed. I have heard of the silent cry situations all so many times. Man or women get so caught up in work so that they forget to ask how was one another day. Then before you know it while leaving work an attractive opposite sex ask the same daily question you were use to your love asking- "So how was your day?" Then before you know it you are asking your man or woman "baby why don't you ask me how my day was..can you please start back." Most of the time it isn't because they want to be babied but its simply because they love when you do this and now someone else is doing it and they don't want to like it..So sometimes its needed. Its not the buying of new things. Its the rekindling of old things. Go back to things you did when you met them. Sometimes its needed. I think that if people would do what is needed then when someone fails to be faithful the question isn't ask what went wrong. Things that money couldn't buy went undone. Hopefully the things that are important no longer goes unnoticed. Especially when it is sometimes needed-Rachel G.

Whose fault is it anyway!

As we in bark the 18th day of 2011 what has changed in your life. I understand children are still finding themselves but should adults be doing the same thing. Since people want to complain about things that they can't change in other peoples lives such as favor, success, happiness, and etc. Why are you still complaining? If you are going to complain look in the mirror and complain about the things you have done wrong! Then look at yourself and say 'WHY AM I COMPLAINING ABOUT THINGS THAT I CAN CHANGE! Really WHOSE FAULT IS IT ANYWAY! When we began pre-school we really didn't know much at all but everyone started off at the same level. As we grew to middle school age some kids name was already moving up faster then they were moving up in grades as the one to watch. So by High School they were so suspect by teachers that they were trouble makers. But once you graduated you were on your own! Now you were in the same classes as your fellow peers so why are you mad at them and down talking them? When you had the same opportunity? I get stuck right here in thought every time because what they have done with their life is their fault so they shouldn't be judgmental toward what anyone is doing in life. Everyone was given the same choice but some used it wisely. Some people instead getting off a high horse and kicking pride to the curve seem to want to bully peoples success at an adult age. Although they don't think to stop that they are looking horrible thinking everything people say is centered toward them when in fact no one really cares to boast their childish ego. Where they are in life is their fault but the best thing about life is that it comes with change! The first step to change is always realizing whose fault it really is anyway! (Looking in the mirror and saying "Where I am in life is all my fault but as of today I will change it." Then change the people you are around because 9xs out of 10 they are not where they should be. Negative energy and positive energy will never get anywhere. Your life is your fault so instead of complaining and finding fault in everyone else success please make the correct changes in yours! STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE DISCUSSIONS YOU HAVE MADE ON YOUR OWN LIFE THAT YOU CAN CHANGE!!-Rachel G.

Was The Dream For This?

Happy Martin Luther King Day!!! The bible says many are called but few are chosen! I believe this was meant for Dr. Marin Luther King!!! At a young age he made a difference and changed things. Then he began to stand for something while others fell for anything. As he went to jail..he went for a reason. As he marched with others, as the song, as they walked young and old. It was for a reason. The I have a dream speech was for a reason. Now was the boycotts, the march, the dream, and everything they went through in vain? What happen? Why do we constantly bring down each other? We know who started gang banging, stealing, killing. Even fathers and mothers not stepping up to their parenting plate. Now I want know why? Was the dream for this? Why do continue to hate on each other? Steal from each other? What happen to helping your neighbor? Having a sale of some kind if your neighbor don't have money to pay her bills. Instead we laugh at each other when they are going through many different things. I don't think the dream was given to Dr. Martin for what society has done. Will this change no! I  think society has trained each other to be jealous, rude, and to slander each other. BUT REALLY I DON'T THINK THE DREAM WAS FOR THIS!

Rachel G. Matters of the Heart: Is It Really Mind Over Matter

Rachel G. Matters of the Heart: Is It Really Mind Over Matter: "Often times while going though everyday struggles even though we have been told that all things are of the mind. So it brings the..."

Is It Really Mind Over Matter

Often times while going though everyday struggles even though  we have been told that all things are of the mind. So it brings the question is it really mind over matter? Now this has nothing to do with science so don't think that you can close your eyes and do the I dream a Ginnie and start floating in mid air or make a bad person turn good! However, can daily struggles be eliminated by thinking differently? The bible says so a man think so is he. Well things are mind over matter. Life is like a on going cycle.. Its goes around. As you think, you then act. Once you have took action consequences then follow. Which consequence you receive is all up to  the way you thought things through.  When the fact of the matter is your are actions act out what your mind has thought! Want better things flowing out of your heart of your matter.. Think wisely! You can never take back but you always learn and  revise. Here is something I start my day with everyday "Don't complain about things you can change" Change your mind because what you think really does matter! This is Matters of the heart-YOUR HEART!!-Rachel G